Friends: Seasonal Items?

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Friends: Seasonal Items?

Lady Question of the Week:

What is a good friend? Do you think it gets more difficult or easier to meet and maintain friendships as you get older?

I have had the same group of friends since I was six and eleven. I know I have matured (sort of) since then, but I do wonder why sometimes. I have met many people whom I adore and have built relationships with and perhaps they are my friends. But the friendship I am talking about is honest, unselfish, unwavering, wound healing, wound giving, trustworthy friendship.

I am wise enough to know that you cannot expect this from everyone you react with, but am I being a pessimist when I ask, where are all the “good” people?

I have a friendship that I built with a friend of mine that is absolutely a task to maintain. Most people would say, let it go. But there is a history and a trust between us that no one can break. Or can they? I have a hard time trusting this friend with the simplicities of life, but have seen them keep intimate details of me in confidence. We also have personality clashes. We don’t agree on a number of things, but when we do it makes for a good time. I am tired of the maintenance that this friendship requires. I don’t know where we stand from day to day. Am I crazy? Are they crazy? Or are we simply incompatible as friends? How do you determine what a good friend is and the importance that they serve in your life? Unfortunately, because my life is in such a transitional stage, I have opted to end my friendship with my friend and I think it’s a relief on both of our parts.

So I need your input. What do you think? Water under the bridge? Or Burn the Bridge?

Also, what characteristics do you value and/or must have in a friend?