Beauty Salon Talk

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Beauty Salon Talk

Ladies: I went to the hair salon yesterday. Shout out to my diva stylist, Treecy. Well, my stylist has a new business partner. I had no idea. I passed him on the way in, but since I was late, I paid him no attention. Half an hour into my appointment he walked in to her suite. A nice looking, well groomed, chocolate brother. He's on the thick side, but definitely still striking. However, it did not bother me that he was there seeing me, hair half done, because I automatically assumed he was...gay.

He then proceeded to tell us about the slew of women he entertains and the purpose of each one. Interesting.

First, he had his "type". When asked to describe, she has to be sexy and very appealing. However, his "type" gets him shallow results. Drama, insecurities, fighting, jealousy, etc. The main objective, mind blowing sex. Instant attraction makes it hard for him to completely eliminate the woman from his life.

Second, was the "nerd". The smart, successful, plain jane. The type you can take anywhere and enjoy countless hours of conversation with. She is attractive but doesn't ooze sexiness. Sex happens, but isn't the priority.

Third, and most interesting, is the homey, lover, friend. The "fake" girlfriend. She is the combination of 1 and 2, but because he knows he can't maintain a full fledged relationship, he doesn't sleep with her. He goes as far as to encourage other sexual partners for them both. It doesn't stop their "closeness" but it eliminates sexual tension, for the most part. He never crosses the line with her but treats her like his girl and likewise.

When I asked him how he avoided catching "feelings". He simply replied, that "you can't". He went on to say "It's just a conscious decision not to mess up a beautiful thing. For whatever reason, I'm not ready for 100% and neither is she". 

I was left speechless. I know that these type of relationships exist because I hear women talk about them. But never a man and never so identical to a woman's point of view. I have my own theory. Most men can not sleep in the same bed with a woman on numerous occasions without having sex. Unless, they are not sexually attracted to them or they are struggling with their sexuality. Either way, if its set terms by two individuals, no one has the right to judge. Although, I cant help but to think someone is bound to get hurt should the agreement change or the other person finds someone else.

After careful consideration, it is my opinion, that this type of relationship is for broken individuals. They have trust, commitment, etc. Issues. Help should be sought and a more defined relationship should be established. Simply put, Choose! Friends or Dating? Don't lose a potential mate because of fear.

Lady Eloise